So, he’s just proposed to you and you’re over the moon, filled with joy and completely overcome with emotion yet you’re already starting to plan your wedding out in your head… you’re starting to think about whom you want to invite to your wedding but your list is already quadruple what it should, you just don’t know who to cut.
Thankfully, We’ve sourced some helpful tip and tricks to help you decide who gets one of your special wedding invitations
First things first, you and your husband-to-be must come to a mutual agreement on the type of guests you want to accompany you on your big day. Whether that means you want to be surrounded solely by close friends and family members or you want every man and his dog to help you celebrate, it’s completely down to you both. The input of both parents (as they probably will ask you “are you going to invite so and so”) should be appreciated but ultimately it is your big day and you should finalise your list.
Just take in to consideration the size of your wedding list will massively affect your budget as catering for a large amount of people will obviously cost more than a smaller, intimate wedding. Another factor to consider is children: if your friends are already married with kids then that’s an added expense already, plus this will affect your catering choice so make sure you have a large selection for your guest types.
Once you’ve both agreed, start sketching a rough list of whom you’d like to invite. It’s helpful to start with the people you both definitely couldn’t imagine getting married without and title this ‘A’ and then people you’re both close to mutually: neighbours and best friends, title this one ‘B’.
Finally, make a list of people who you’d like to see you wed but don’t necessarily have to be there (you can always ask them to attend your reception) – this can be called ‘C’. Having these three lists will help you prioritise your guest list and help you stick to a budget. If you find you have too many, start at ‘C’ and work your way backwards eliminating people as you go.
Typically, couples between 20-30 have a selection of single friends, which means that the plus one allowance is floating about. It’s not uncommon to use the plus one as a way to get your single friends thinking about finding a date or being accompanied by someone they’ve been dating on the sly. You can always request the name of their plus one so you can look them up on Facebook after…come on, we’ve all done it at least once!
If you don’t fancy the idea of having someone you’ve never met before at your wedding, eliminate the plus one allowance and get all your single friends, from the grooms side as well and get the to mingle. Weddings are a great place to form new relationships so this could be a perfect opportunity to set your friends up.
When talking about your wedding to others, be very careful about the people who automatically assume they’re invited when they might not be. It’s all well and good to discuss wedding plans with people, as they’re obviously going to notice you showing off your rock but try and avoid last minute add-ons. Just be polite and express that you would love to have everyone joining you in your celebration but the budget just won’t allow it.
Finally, make sure both parties have an even input. There’s nothing worse than a venue full of the groom’s guests and a handful of the bride’s. Divide the guest list allowance in to thirds, this will add diversity to the wedding making sure that everyone is happy (even the in-laws!) Have one-third for the bride, one-third for the groom and one-third combined. Using this strategy allows for the ‘A-C’ lists to be finalised and set in stone ready for your guests to save the date!
We hope that these wedding guest list tips are useful and you now have a final list way ahead of time (meaning more time spent looking for that perfect gown!)
Let us know if you have any unusual ways of selecting your wedding party or if our advice has been helpful to you.
By Lauren Sutherland.